This or That Questions for Couples
Try 84 this or that questions for couples, then see which choices you share. Pick your side on ten pairs, pass the phone, and let your partner choose before comparing.
Two choices. Two points of view.
Pick what sounds better today. Your partner makes their own choices next, then you see where you matched. Reload this page to clear your answers.
Choose for yourself. Your partner takes a separate turn.
How to play
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Player 1 picks a side on ten pairs. Go with today's preference, even if both options sound good.
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Pass the phone at the handover screen. Player 2 chooses for themselves without seeing the earlier answers.
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Compare your matches, then ask about a choice that surprised you. The full 84-pair list is below for playing out loud or on paper.
All 84 questions, by mood
Browse at your own pace. Read one out loud, or print the list for an evening without a screen.
At the table
A few choices for the next time neither of you wants to pick dinner.
- For a diner breakfast, a booth or a counter seat?
- At a food truck, a tried-and-true order or the handwritten special?
- For movie snacks, seasoned popcorn or a bowl of mixed candy?
- For our dinner date, pizza or sushi?
- On a cold night together, order takeout or cook at home?
- For a picnic drink, homemade lemonade or iced tea?
- When we order fries, share a portion or get one each?
- At a bakery, a warm pretzel or a cinnamon roll?
- For a quick lunch, a stuffed pita or a bowl of noodles?
- For a birthday treat, a slice of cake or an ice cream sundae?
- For dessert on a date, share one or order two?
- For brunch at home, make pancakes or bake biscuits?
- For a snack to share, chips and salsa or cheese and crackers?
- After dinner, peppermint tea or a small hot chocolate?
Staying in
How would you spend a whole evening with nowhere you have to be?
- On the couch, one big blanket or one each?
- For a quiet evening, a jigsaw puzzle or a coloring book?
- While making dinner, a podcast or an old album?
- For a night at home together, a movie or a board game?
- On a lazy morning together, breakfast in bed or brunch out?
- For a rainy afternoon, bake bread or make a big pot of soup?
- During a show, pause to discuss or talk after the credits?
- For a game together, word tiles or a deck of cards?
- On the couch, cuddle close or stretch out at opposite ends?
- On a slow morning, open the curtains right away or linger in the dim light?
- For a small home upgrade, softer towels or better pillows?
- On a summer night together, a backyard dinner or a movie with the fan on?
- For background sound, gentle rain or a crackling fireplace?
- Before bed, read a chapter or listen to one last song?
Out and about
Pick the outing, not the person you think you should be.
- For an afternoon outing, a botanical garden or an aquarium?
- At a street fair, browse handmade things or watch the performers?
- For a small adventure, a ferry ride or a scenic train?
- On a walking date, follow a river or explore side streets?
- For live entertainment, a small comedy show or an outdoor concert?
- At a museum, follow the suggested route or wander toward what catches your eye?
- For a shop to browse, used records or used books?
- For a chilly outing, ice skating or a winter market?
- On a warm evening, mini golf or a walk through a night market?
- For our next day trip, the beach or the mountains?
- At a park, sit under a tree or walk the whole loop?
- For a new class together, pottery or baking?
- For an adventurous date, a hike or a bike ride?
- For a date with friends, a bowling lane or an escape room?
On the road
The choices between leaving home and getting back.
- For a short trip, a duffel bag or a small suitcase?
- At the airport, walk around or settle near the gate?
- On a trip together, an early start or a slow morning?
- For a travel snack, trail mix or a packed sandwich?
- In a new city, a walking tour or a neighborhood café first?
- For photos on a trip, take lots as you go or a few at the end?
- At a rental place, unpack everything or live out of the bag?
- On a road trip, chat most of the way or share a long playlist?
- For a vacation keepsake together, a photo album or a souvenir for our home?
- For getting around somewhere new, public transit or exploring on foot?
- For our next vacation, one favorite place or somewhere neither of us has been?
- When we travel, plan each day or decide as we go?
- With an hour before check-in, find lunch or drop the bags and explore?
- On the ride home, talk about the trip or enjoy a comfortable quiet?
A little romance
Small gestures, with no grand production required.
- For a note to find later, on the fridge or inside a book?
- For a welcome-home treat, something freshly baked or a favorite cold drink?
- For a keepsake of us, a photo strip or a small sketch?
- For a slow date, a long lunch or an evening dessert stop?
- For a little surprise from me, flowers or your favorite snack?
- When we meet up, a long hug or an excited story first?
- For a shared ritual, a goodbye kiss or a goodnight check-in?
- For a message from me, a flirty text or a sweet voice note?
- For a low-key celebration, candles at dinner or breakfast served on a tray?
- For a song together, sing badly in the car or dance badly in the kitchen?
- On a cool walk, link arms or share a pocket for your hands?
- For a surprise date, a few hints or no clues at all?
- For a shared memory, keep a small scrapbook or make a yearly photo album?
- For a sweet message, one line out of the blue or a longer note before bed?
Tiny preferences, strong opinions
Some of these may require an explanation. Take your time.
- For an appointment, arrive very early or right on the dot?
- For our birthdays, surprise gifts or wish lists?
- For a playlist, shuffle everything or play an album in order?
- For a present, a useful everyday thing or something wonderfully impractical?
- When we make plans, a quick call or a few texts?
- For a small win, tell everyone or quietly enjoy it?
- When we shop for groceries, go together or take turns?
- On weekends together, wake up early or sleep in?
- For a weekend task, get it done first or enjoy a slow start?
- When we disagree, talk right away or take a short break first?
- For time with friends, go out as a couple or make separate plans?
- For our evenings, make plans ahead or see how we feel?
- For learning something new, try it yourself or watch someone first?
- For an unexpected day off, invite someone over or keep the day unplanned?
A few things you might be wondering
Are we guessing each other's answers?
In this game, each person chooses for themselves. The comparison shows which preferences you share today. If you'd rather guess what your partner chose, try our how-well-do-you-know-your-partner game.
What if I like both choices?
Pick the one you'd choose right now. There is no permanent label attached to your answer. Tell your partner what would make you switch sides when you compare afterward.
What does our match percentage mean?
It is the number of identical choices in this ten-pair round. A different taste in snacks or travel bags is just a different taste. Use it as a reason to ask why, not as a judgment about you two.
Can we play these questions over a call?
Yes. Read pairs from the list and say your choices at the same time, or write them down before revealing them. You can also print the page for a version that doesn't need a screen.
Are our choices saved?
No. Choices stay in this page's memory while you play. Starting another round or reloading clears them. The game does not send answers to our servers.
Want to guess instead? Play How well do you know your partner?
Made for a conversation
Written by our team for everyday moments together. These prompts are not a checklist for your relationship. Take what fits and leave the rest.
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