What you'll find out
Where do you two stand?
Time for a Check-In
Some of your needs aren't being met right now.
Mixed Signals
Some things work, some keep draining you.
Good Bones
Strong foundations, a few rooms to finish.
Steady & Strong
You've built something that really works.
How it works
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Answer 15 questions about how things have felt lately.
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See your score, type, and breakdown in about 3 minutes.
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Send your partner a share link to compare your answers.
A few things you might be wondering
Can we use this as a marriage quiz?
Yes. It works for married couples, people living together, and people dating. If a question hasn't come up for you yet, pick the answer that feels most likely.
What kind of relationship questions will we answer?
Everyday ones: what happens when plans change, how you ask for help, and whether you both get room to speak. You will also think about enjoying your time together and what you want next.
Does this look at compatibility beyond zodiac signs?
Yes. It asks about your actual days together, not your birthdays or signs. The goal is to give you something specific to talk about, like a missed promise or a plan you both enjoyed.
Can my partner compare, and where are our answers saved?
Yes. Your partner can answer through your share link, and you can compare your answers side by side. Answers are saved in your browser and your result is stored anonymously when you finish, with no names or emails, so you can share it with a private link. Anyone with the link can view the shared result.
Can this quiz tell me whether my relationship is safe?
No. This quiz cannot assess safety or identify abuse, whatever your score says. If you feel unsafe, reach out to a local support service or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at thehotline.org, using a device you feel safe using.
About this relationship quiz
How are you two doing on a regular Tuesday? This relationship quiz looks at the everyday stuff: keeping promises, asking for help, speaking up, and having room to do your own thing. It also asks whether you enjoy your time together and want to keep building something. There are 15 questions, and you can finish in about 3 minutes.
Think about recent weeks, not just your best date or your last argument. Pick the answer that feels closest. You can be dating, living together, or married.
Your partner can take it too. Create a share link, let them answer separately, and compare what each of you noticed. A small difference might explain why the same evening felt great to one of you and lonely to the other.
Answers are saved in your browser. When you finish, your result is stored anonymously, with no names or emails, so you can share it with a private link. Anyone with that link can view the shared result.
These questions draw on relationship research, but this is for fun and self-reflection, not therapy. Start with one need you can put into words.
What this quiz measures
A conversation starter, grounded in relationship research.
Trust & security
How easy it feels to count on your partner and ask for reassurance.
Adult attachment research explores expectations of closeness and partner availability in romantic relationships [1].
Communication
How comfortably you two say what you need and listen when it matters.
The interpersonal process model links disclosure and perceived partner responsiveness with experienced intimacy [2].
Support & teamwork
How you two help each other through rough days and share the work.
A relational support framework distinguishes help during adversity from encouragement to explore opportunities [3].
Space & individuality
How easily you two make room for separate interests, friends, and quiet time.
Self-determination theory treats autonomy and relatedness as compatible psychological needs [4].
Satisfaction & commitment
How much you enjoy being together and want to keep choosing this relationship.
The investment model distinguishes satisfaction from commitment and considers investments and alternatives [5].
Research behind the reflections
- Hazan, C., & Shaver, P. (1987). Romantic love conceptualized as an attachment process. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 52(3), 511–524.
- Laurenceau, J.-P., Barrett, L. F., & Pietromonaco, P. R. (1998). Intimacy as an interpersonal process: The importance of self-disclosure, partner disclosure, and perceived partner responsiveness in interpersonal exchanges. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 74(5), 1238–1251.
- Feeney, B. C., & Collins, N. L. (2015). A new look at social support: A theoretical perspective on thriving through relationships. Personality and Social Psychology Review, 19(2), 113–147.
- Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2000). The “what” and “why” of goal pursuits: Human needs and the self-determination of behavior. Psychological Inquiry, 11(4), 227–268.
- Rusbult, C. E. (1980). Commitment and satisfaction in romantic associations: A test of the investment model. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 16(2), 172–186.