About Couples Quiz

Made for a conversation

Our original questions draw on published relationship research. The Couples Quiz team writes and edits them for clarity and inclusivity. We aim for everyday situations you can recognize, without assuming your gender or what your relationship looks like.

These are for fun and self-reflection. They are not validated psychological tests, therapy, or a way to predict whether a relationship will last.

How the scores work

Each answer has a value from 0 to 3; we average those values within each theme and turn them into a score out of 100, then average the theme scores for your overall result. For two people, the pair score combines answer similarity (60%) with the average of both individual scores (40%). A score is a snapshot of your answers, not a verdict on your relationship.

1. 01

   Answer everyday questions.

2. 02

   See your themes and reflections.

3. 03

   Invite your partner to compare.

Research we draw on

These sources inform the themes. The researchers have not endorsed our quizzes or tested our scoring system.

• Laurenceau, J.-P., Barrett, L. F., & Pietromonaco, P. R. (1998). Intimacy as an interpersonal process: The importance of self-disclosure, partner disclosure, and perceived partner responsiveness in interpersonal exchanges. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 74(5), 1238–1251.
• Gottman, J. M., & Levenson, R. W. (1992). Marital processes predictive of later dissolution: Behavior, physiology, and health. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 63(2), 221–233.
• Gable, S. L., Reis, H. T., Impett, E. A., & Asher, E. R. (2004). What do you do when things go right? The intrapersonal and interpersonal benefits of sharing positive events. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 87(2), 228–245.
• Fitzsimons, G. M., Finkel, E. J., & vanDellen, M. R. (2015). Transactive goal dynamics. Psychological Review, 122(4), 648–673.
• Aron, A., Norman, C. C., Aron, E. N., McKenna, C., & Heyman, R. E. (2000). Couples' shared participation in novel and arousing activities and experienced relationship quality. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 78(2), 273–284.
• Hazan, C., & Shaver, P. (1987). Romantic love conceptualized as an attachment process. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 52(3), 511–524.
• Feeney, B. C., & Collins, N. L. (2015). A new look at social support: A theoretical perspective on thriving through relationships. Personality and Social Psychology Review, 19(2), 113–147.
• Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2000). The “what” and “why” of goal pursuits: Human needs and the self-determination of behavior. Psychological Inquiry, 11(4), 227–268.
• Rusbult, C. E. (1980). Commitment and satisfaction in romantic associations: A test of the investment model. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 16(2), 172–186.
• Sternberg, R. J. (1986). A triangular theory of love. Psychological Review, 93(2), 119–135.

Updates and corrections

Each content page shows when we last updated it. We review the wording, scoring, and sources when we make changes. Spotted something unclear or incorrect? Tell the team so we can take a look.